Common Myths
For Adoptive Parents

Common Myths
For Adoptive Parents

Myth

A really caring mother would never give up her child. I don’t deserve to be a mother if I choose adoption.

Fact

A mother who unselfishly creates an adoption plan for her child is placing her child’s best interest above her own. It is an ultimate sacrifice for a mother to choose life for her child and realize what is best for that child. Adoption is a caring and responsible process that is as natural and loving as parenting.

Myth

Adoption is an irresponsible solution to an unplanned pregnancy. “I made this bed…I need to lie in it.”

Fact

Adoption requires a strong and responsible person. Do not feel guilty for considering adoption or think of parenting as a deserved punishment for your unplanned pregnancy. Making the choice for your child to be raised in an environment that can provide the things you are not able to provide at this time is very brave, very responsible, and very loving.

Myth

I will have to say goodbye and will never hear from my child again or know how they are doing

Fact

This was true in the past when all adoptions were closed. The baby was taken from the birth mother and she had to live the rest of her life never knowing what became of her child. Today, you can create your own adoption plan which can make it possible for you to select your child’s adoptive parents and meet them. You can choose to stay in touch while your child is growing up by receiving pictures and letters which can ensure that you made the right decision for your child. Open adoptions even allow you to stay in touch with phone calls and possibly even occasional visits.

Myth

Adopted children grow up with more problems than children who are not adopted

Fact

Adopted children do as well as or better than their non-adopted counterparts. A 1994 study by the Search Institute examining adopted adolescents concluded some of the following facts:
  • Adopted children score higher than their middle-class peers on indicators of school performance and social competence.
  • Adopted adolescents generally are less depressed than children of single parents and are less involved in alcohol abuse, vandalism, fighting, police trouble, use of weapons, and theft.
  • On health measures, adopted children score higher than children raised by single parents.
  • Compared with the general child population, children placed with adoptive couples are better off economically and adoptive parents are less likely to divorce.
(Taken from Adoption: The Best Option by Patrick Fagan)

Our Waiting Families​

Thank You Note

I remember feeling helpless. I didn’t know how to get Medicaid; I didn’t know how to find the right family; I didn’t even know how the adoption process worked….I was intimidated by the situation and couldn’t accept the fact that this pregnancy was a blessing and not just a “situation”. So THANK YOU for not giving up on me and for having so much patience with me. Thank you for showing me the beauty of choosing adoption.

Birth Mom

Elizabeth is a compassionate and thoughtful human being. My husband and I were excited, yet had some anxieties about adoption. We didn’t know what to expect. We met Elizabeth who walked us through and always made sure we knew we were an important part of the whole adoption process. She answered every question and stood with us until our adoption was final. In the world of confusion and anxiety, she brought calm. Thank you Elizabeth. Now our family is complete!

Anonymous

Stephanie is doing this for the right reason. It's like this is her ministry.

Kassie

Thank you for helping me and journey with all the legal necessities. Thank you for not only being my amazing lawyer, but also a friend. And most of all, thank you for helping us find the perfect family for our baby! I thank God for guiding us to you and for working everything out perfectly. We could NOT have done it without you! Thank you!

Birth Mom

How can I ever thank you for my child? You have given us a gift that feels miraculous. You truly do God’s work in the faxes, focus, phone calls and fedexes you deal with. I hope there is a special place in heaven for people like you. You make the world -and my world in particular- a wonderful, hopeful place.

Adoptive Family

You’ve given us a gift that just keeps giving! Our baby is almost 1 year old now! He is the best thing to ever happen to us and is filling our lives with joy! Thank you!

Adoptive Family

Thank you with all my heart! I am so grateful for all your time and energy spent on our case. You have given me the most incredible gift. You are forever in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you!

Adoptive Family

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