Birthmother Books To Read As You Consider Adoption

If you’re pregnant in Florida, but not ready to be a mom just yet, you don’t have to be. Placing baby for adoption is often a difficult decision, but it’s also selfless and responsible if you feel it’s truly in their best interest. Women who choose adoption are putting their baby first, which is an incredible thing to do. If you’re thinking that you want to “put baby up for adoption,” but are struggling to create your adoption plan, it’s a good idea to do some research and use expert resources; this is going to affect your child’s future, after all! For some great resources, check out these birthmother books that we love. 

Pregnant? Adoption is an Option

This book is geared towards young women facing unplanned pregnancy who might not have access to good resources or a lot of support. It doesn’t just focus on choosing adoption, but actually looks at a wider range of options for women, helping you make sure you’re making the right decision. It’s super insightful about the effects the different choices have on you, the father, and the child. 

The book is really honest about adoption too. They don’t sugarcoat the experience, but that’s very useful and will help you prepare properly! The information you find will also help you create an adoption plan that considers everyone. This should help feel much more confident when it comes to making these tough decisions. 

Dear Birthmother: Thank You For Our Baby

When it comes to birthmother books, this one is a little different. Rather than being full of facts and information, it’s instead made up of the correspondence between birthmothers and adoptive parents – and, yes, it’s 100% real! By giving you a sneak peek into the worlds of other birthmothers and adoption plans, you should get a much better idea of how to navigate your own, including what you want and what you definitely don’t want. 

Learn from mistakes and triumphs, understand both sides of adoption, and become more knowledgeable about the process. This is another book we’d recommend for everyone involved in adoption because it’s so insightful and understanding. Even adopted children can learn more about their situation from this book, along with many others.

Given in Love: For Mothers Who Are Choosing an Adoption Plan

When you’re creating an adoption plan, chances are that you’re going to deal with a lot of different emotions. Or, perhaps you won’t feel much at all, which in itself can be very emotional and hard to process. From grief and loss to ambivalence or even anger, birthmothers experience a whole spectrum of feelings as they create adoption plans.

This book dives into these emotions and helps to prepare you for what may lie ahead on your own journey. It also offers advice on hard topics, like naming the baby and writing letters to your child, which will be incredibly useful when these things come up for you. The author has created a shoulder to cry on and someone to lean on in the form of a book, which is pretty incredible!

The Open Adoption Experience

The fact that this book was published in the 1990s (1993 to be exact) puts a lot of birthmothers off. But, it shouldn’t! Though it’s a little old, it’s still full of useful, timeless information for everyone involved in the adoption of a child. It’s a wonderfully positive resource. It speaks of the benefits of adoption, the different processes that you have to go through, and how to deal with everything. 

If you’d like to look into having an open adoption and staying in touch with your child, this is a great read. It talks a lot about how to keep the connection open and how to create a great relationship between you, your child, and the adoptive parents for many years to come. In our opinion, every birth mother should read this book!

Lifegivers: Framing the Birthparent Experience in Open Adoption

While it’s not a one of the birthmother books written by an actual birth mother, Lifegivers is written by an author that truly empathizes with the journey birthmothers take. Although the author, James L. Gritter really understands the process and the emotions that run through it. Heartfelt, informative, and truly sympathetic towards birth mothers, it’s a wonderful book that’s incredibly useful.

If you’re finding your emotions are a bit all over the place during the process, Lifegivers will help you to see how normal that is. If you’re feeling misunderstood, this book will provide a welcome relief in the form of someone who understands.

This book is a great resource for open adoptions too. Not only will this help you form your adoption plan, but it will help you understand more about the options you chose. Even if you’re not interested in an open adoption, it’s a good idea to read this book so you understand more about the options available to you when making an adoption plan. 

Birthmother Books, Blogs, and Plenty of Advice

If you’ve found this page because you searched “giving my baby up for adoption,” or something similar, we hope you’re getting the help you need and/or found a book of interest that you’d like to pick up. If you’re pregnant in Florida and would like to talk to someone about your pregnancy options, we are here for you. We provide Florida pregnancy counseling, free-of-charge to any woman who needs it. Don’t hesitate to reach out. We are here for you 24/7. 

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